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Adopting.org - Meeting Birthmother for the first time next week... Forums | Site Map Home Adopting.org Discussion Forums Adopting.org > Adult Adoptees Meeting Birthmother for the first time next week... User NameRemember Me Password RegisterFAQMembers ListCalendarToday s PostsSearch Search Forums Advanced Search Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes #1 04-15-2008, 06:31 PM LeslieCA Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1 Meeting Birthmother for the first time next week... I am meeting my birthmother for the first time next week. It has been almost a year since my birthsister found me through the internet. I have so much anxiety about this meeting. I have met my birthsisters already and will be traveling with them. Sometimes I don t think they understand how I am feeling. I am caught between that loyalty and pleasing with my two families. Sometimes I feel that I am between a rock and a hard place. I asked for some moral support and the reaction was one of "don t you think we support you enough" I want to trust them 100% but my sister doesn t even that happy to sit with me on the plane. My birthmother has been sick and I feel like my visit is to help her heal. That is a heavy load to carry. Any advice would be great. LeslieCA View Public Profile Send a private message to LeslieCA Find all posts by LeslieCA Add LeslieCA to Your Buddy List Sponsored Advertisement #2 04-17-2008, 08:56 AM Crick Administrator Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: near the mountains Posts: 495 I can imagine how much pressure this is on you! All I can really offer is that you stay true to yourself and put your needs above those of your sisters. Meeting your bmom is not their reunion but yours & bmom s alone. Of course they are involved and are there, but at the end of the day, what you want out of this reunion with bmom is yours. You don t need to be loyal to anyone but ...