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Adopting.org - Advice on adopting cousin s baby Forums | Site Map Home Adopting.org Discussion Forums Adopting.org > Relative Adoption Advice on adopting cousin s baby User NameRemember Me Password RegisterFAQMembers ListCalendarToday s PostsSearch Search Forums Advanced Search Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes #1 02-07-2008, 11:08 AM Lmholmes Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 3 Advice on adopting cousin s baby Our situation is that my cousin has had 4 kids now ages 6, 4, 2 and 9 months. The older 3 have been officially adopted by the youngest s foster parents. We have the youngest with us. She has had a long history of drug abuse among other things. I until currently have had little contact with her for the above reasons. She wants us to adopt her son because she is afraid that if she ever gets him back the state (Washington) will take him away again. Which tells me that she has little to no intention of "cleaning up her act". She says that she knows if we adopt him that we will allow her to visit and see him. My problem is that im not so sure we want her to see him. We live a little over an hour apart. Currently she is allowed supervised visits which are held in our home (small town, no one avail. to do supervised visits). Parental rights are not terminated at this point. Father will not step forward. My husband says we could give her chance and allow her to see him until the first time she "messes" up. Im I guess being selfish in that I dont feel she deserves to be an active part of his life, Yes she is his birth mom but she is not straightening up for him. She just had a "dirty" UA 2 weeks ago for meth. I kinda feel guilty because she is willing to sign her parental rights so we could adopt him thinking she will be able to see him (at this point). My husband says I shouldnt because she is willing to sign them over so she has an easy out "not wanting to ...