forums.adoption.com/showthread.php?p=420754 ~Relationship Stages A...

~Relationship Stages After a Reunion - Adoption.com Forums Members ListPhotosEventsLocal Adoption SupportSearch ArcadeReviewsMembership Upgrade Search Forums Advanced Search Welcome to the Forums.Register If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ. You may have to register before you can post or search: click here to proceed. To start viewing messages, select a forum below that you would like to view or click View All of Todays Posts. Forum Categories Adult Adoptees Adoptive Parents International Adoption Birthparents Parenting Community Center Search & Reunion Faith-Based Adoption Support Special Needs & Attachment Foster Care & Adoption User NameRemember Me Password Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes #1 03-30-2004, 07:52 AM thesearchguru Senior MemberJoin Date: May 2002 Posts: 10,991 Total Points: 116,726.42 Donate ~Relationship Stages After a Reunion RELATIONSHIP STAGES AFTER REUNION (Author Unknown) Not every individual goes through every stage; they may not be sequential, they may be repeated. The stages are common to the post-reunion period and are normal consequences of reunion. HONEYMOON STAGE: Characterized by euphoria, joy and sense of being on top of the world Effort made by parties to find similarity and common interests Much time spent together in an effort to catch up on each other’s life with exchanges of photos, letter and gifts. Preoccupation with other party Minor negotiations about relationship, ie. What to call birth parent Some uncertainty about place or role in other’s life, frequency of contact, how to introduce each other to friends and family members TIME OUT STAGE: One party may pull back to evaluate and process events. The honeymoon is over. Other party may feel confused when this happens. Birth parents may feel hurt, angry, frustrated and frightened if adoptee pulls back and adoptee ma...